Start Where You Are – Successful People Series Part 3

“Because your own strength is unequal to the task, do not assume that it is beyond the powers of man; but if anything is within the powers and province of man, believe that it is within your own compass also.”
–         Marcus Aurelius

If there were only one common thread between the billions of auspicious people in the world, this would be it. Starting where you are is crucial because more often than not people try to start from where they were or where they’d like to be, which is akin to starting from a place that doesn’t exist. It’s not uncommon for people to view their current situation, despite all that they may have going for them, as the epitome of despair, and because of this they never move beyond their starting point.


There aren’t too many things on this Earth that are worse than wasted talent, and successful people are masters at avoiding this by the simple fact that acknowledge where they are and take one step after another in the direction that they want to go.

Its Your Fault

Hopefully that isn’t too shocking of a statement, but if it is then good – maybe that’s just what you needed to hear to get the ball rolling. I was at a seminar in Toronto, and while having lunch with John Berardi and some of his colleagues, I heard him say something that had pretty profound impact on my thinking from that point on – “If I’m giving a talk and my audience doesn’t understand what I’m talking about its not their fault – I just haven’t done a good enough job of explaining it.” By taking away the option of blaming his audience and using them as an excuse for not getting his point across, John highlighted an important point – excuses are debilitating, and successful people take no stock in them.

We would all do well to remember this point. Extenuating circumstances aside, the successes and failures that you experience in life are entirely your fault. Are you fatter than you’d like to be? You ate too much and moved too little. Are you making as much money as you’d like to? Are you living the kind of life that you want? You get the picture. It is only when we stop blaming everyone else for our lack or results in any area of life that we can begin to move forward.

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  1. Jack says

    And suddenly I flashed back to “A Bronx Tale”……..

    “Sonny and my father always said that when I get older I would understand. Well, I finally did. I learned something from these two men. I learned to give love and get love unconditionally. You just have to accept people for what they are, and I learned the greatest gift of all. The saddest thing in life is wasted talent, and the choices that you make will shape your life forever. But you can ask anybody from my neighborhood, and they’ll just tell you this is just another Bronx tale. “

    • says

      Awww man, you’re hitting close to home here with that one! That was one of my favorite movies growing up, and the ending never fails to get to me no matter how many times I watch it. Living the message is hard, but who said it would be easy, right? To another day of striving towards success!

  2. Jack says

    And I forgot the most critical part………………..thank you for the always timely reminder to quit spreading blame around and start taking action to effect real and lasting changes for the better, Roger.

  3. LYnda says

    Rog, I am loving that you posted that clip with your blogpost, so timely!! I think you nailed it, and this was what I needed to hear today, thanks man! 🙂

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